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Boundaries for Tarot Readers & 2 Card Boundary Spread
| Posted on February 5, 2012 at 9:20 PM |
"Never forget that a half truth is a whole lie." Source Unknown
"Boundaries are to protect life, not to limit pleasures."
~ Edwin Louis Cole
It is said that "People treat us the way we teach them to treat us."
How are you being treated as a reader?
Tonight we featured a panel discussion of tarotists who talked about
how to create boundaries as a reader.
Panelists included
The Panel discussed topics such as dealing with:
- When your reading is criticized.
- What if a client doesn't like their reading?
- Expectation of free readings that infringes upon a real or implied friendship?
- If a client asks you to interpret cards laid out by another reader?
- Clients who overdo readings (psychic addiction?)
- What if a client wants more cards laid down because they are not getting the answer they want?
- When uncomfortable topics or questions arise?
- How to professionally respond to bartering ~ some people will expect us to barter even when our policies clearly state we won't do so.
- When there are too many follow-up questions on email readings -- how to handle this
- Payment boundaries ~ While some have a hardship story and ask for a reading now to be paid for later.
- When a client complains your fees are too high.
- When you have to let go of (or literally "fire" a client)
And you can hear this special panel discussion here:
or go HERE.
A lot was covered during the discussion and we ran out of time before we were able to do a wonderful
BOUNDARY SPREAD
which was created by
Georgianna Boehnke of The Tarot Room.
So let's offer it here.
Draw 2 cards from your favorite tarot deck and ask:
1) Define boundary as it pertains to me.
2) How can I best establish my own personal boundaries?
SAMPLE READING:
For a sample reading, I pulled two cards from the Gaian Tarot.
And I received
21 Gaia the World
10 of Fire
What are boundaries to me?
Boundaries to me are not as clear as they used to be. Since my voice and presence stream Internationally, I have found myself exposed to people all over the world and suddenly I realize there is a lot let into my life that I've not had to deal with before. I tend to be very trusting, thus this unlimited expanse of "world" has let in a lot of....well....."stuff."
Interestingly, the World card is a "boundaries" card for many people, being a card connected with the planet Saturn (which has energy of restriction). Additionally, the wreath image on this card may be seen by some as a circular boundary line. So this card does define "boundaries," but with the image of thte entire planet, this suggests that mine may include the entire world. That's kinda big! There's bound to be a few worms in those apples.
The fish at the bottom of the Gaia card was important to me, as I had experienced a situation with fraud reminiscent of the movie, "Catfish." This card shows me putting the world between me and the fish. Fortunately, it is belly-up, and you know what that means for a fish. This belly-up fish foreshadows the next card, which suggests how I can best establish my own boundaries. Because although I grew up trusting just about everyone, tarot has other suggestions in mind.
2) How can I best establish my own personal boundaries?
This forest fire suggests in no uncertain terms the need for fast and firm elimination. Burn them from my life, eliminate their presence from my life to make way for fertile new soil. End it, wipe it off the slate. "It's over, Grover."
I will have to create endings in order to establish boundaries. Some cannot be let back in. Those that are within in my "allowed boundary zone" are part of my world even if there is not always comfort. But when I start feeling strong discomfort, and I know what my limits are, it's time to burn the old to do a little crop clearing to let in the acceptable.This will fertilize the soil for new planting and allow clean, new growth.
What cards define and assist with YOUR boundaries?
Here's wishing you a tarot-filled week of healthy lines in the sand.
Warmly,
Donnaleigh
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1) Define boundary as it pertains to me. ? Queen of Cups
As boundaries pertains to me, the Queen of Cups shows me that because I have always been such a generous person with a soft heart, I very much need to have boundaries in place so that I am not manipulated and taken advantage of. I easily feel sorry for people, and I easily feel their pain ? sometimes as if it is my own pain. In the past, that made it too easy to just drop the boundaries and give in to freely offer my help ? even at my own detriment!
But this Queen shows me that boundaries are also about love ? for others and for myself. And sometimes ?tough love? must be a part of it, just like when it comes to dealing with children. Boundaries can specify love for the self, and also self-respect. Boundaries help me to detach emotionally ? just enough to be objective and stand my ground, but not in the way of detaching so much that I have no compassion. The Queen of Cups is indeed filled with great love and compassion. But to love yourself, you must uphold boundaries. The maturity of the Queen suggests that I can help others with a compassionate, gentle touch, but it doesn?t mean that, in the process, I should avoid the responsibility of those boundaries for myself. For that would not be self-love.
I think it was very difficult for me to establish solid boundaries for the longest time. And it?s only within the past 2 to 3 years that I have done so more firmly. With the Queen of Cups, I can see the emotional side and the reason why it was harder for me to be tougher when needed. But fortunately, I now see that the Tarot shows me that boundaries can still be a loving expression to promote respect and goodness between myself and others. Boundaries are not mean or stingy . . . they are about promoting love for others and the self.
2) How can I best establish my own personal boundaries? ? 7 of Wands
Interestingly, the 7 of Wands is a card of boundaries, and it clearly shows me that I must take a stand and be more firm or assertive as needed. I will be called upon to continually defend those boundaries. In fact, I had to do so today yet again. But I found a way to lovingly suggest an alternative even though I would not honor an expired free gift certificate.
This is about handling myself in a responsible way ? and not letting others walk on me as I did at one point in my career. I must defend these boundaries, because this is about standing up for what I value and not settling for less than I want and deserve. I must have the courage of my convictions and the integrity to follow through. I cannot be wishy-washy about it. I must be firm. Thus, the 7 of Wands shows me that I must continually be ?on my own side? and do what is best for me and my business. I can?t just take a backseat when it comes to boundaries. I have to get in front of the firing line and be firm and strong ? even when the Queen of Cups emotions want me to do something else. I am responsible for taking control through boundaries and defending those, and the 7 of Wands tells me that this will ensure I don?t let myself get pushed around.
Not only must I have boundaries, but I must enforce them. For it does little good to ?have? a boundary if that is not enforced and followed through. With the Queen of Cups card and the 7 of Wands, the Tarot asks me, ?Do you love yourself enough to take a stand when needed?? And my answer is, ?Yes, I do!?
Sharon (Velvet Angel)
Sharon (Velvet Angel)
xo
DL
swampwitch says...
I am going to listen to the show now. These are all questions and situations I very much need help with. Thank you Donnaleigh and friends. Y'all are "Fab A Lous!"
Thank you, Swamp Witch! It helped me as much as anyone else. Boundaries can be one of life's challenges.
xo
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